Two weeks ago, Flo and Archie were one. They’re Leap Year babies which makes the
birthday thing a bit weird. Only
celebrating their birthdays once every four years seemed a bit harsh plus I’d
be having to buy teeny tiny school uniforms for September so we plumped for 1st
March instead on non Leap Years. This
was partly in honour of St David who plays a fairly hefty part in Justin’s life
but also to reduce the February offspring birthday party quotient in future
years. Being the Brigadoon of birthdays,
it felt decidedly odd to be celebrating such a landmark occasion on the wrong
day.
The day Flo and Archie were born, the local paper called the
hospital and asked if we’d be in a ‘Leap Year twins birth shocker’ photo story. I considered
their kind offer for about oooh 10 nano seconds and declined, what with my
partial paralysis, pallour and post natal poundage. Oh and because I worried that Flo and Archie
would never forgive me for cashing in on their first precious hours.
We had a little family birthday tea party to celebrate this
most special of birthdays. Flo and
Archie played with balloons, ripped open presents and sucked wrapping paper, and
ate their first chocolate cake. They ate
it just like you should eat your first chocolate cake – wide-eyed, by the
handful, smearing it all over their lovely little faces, spilling an awful lot
on the floor, and gagging ever-so-slightly afterwards. I was proud and got misty-eyed and we drank
champagne.
Four years ago, at Evie’s first birthday party, Justin made
a lovely speech and we shed a happy and triumphant tear. This time it felt a bit different. No less happy or memorable a celebration, I
fancy we had a look of the battle-weary war veteran about us - a bit jaded,
line-y eyed and frazzled around the edges even in our party clothes. No speeches this time but in a quiet moment,
we touched hands and had a silent conversation which I think we both knew acknowledged
that we’d made it through what has been an incredibly tough year.
There are things about having two babies at the same time that
I’ve really struggled with this first year.
You know the stuff from my
previous warblings: the freak effect in the supermarket, the ‘double trouble, you’ve got your hands full‘ quoters, our colossus of a buggy that kills
spontaneous outings and requires Geoff Capes to travel with us on all occasions
so we can get it out of the car. The pitiful
lack of hands to cuddle, feed and carry everyone at the same time. The relentless logistics and bone-aching exhaustion. And let’s be honest, the sheer cold realisation
that I’m far too old to be doing all this at my age.
A friend once asked me: “So
would you recommend the whole twin experience then?” and before missing a
beat I said “God no, why would anyone
want to have two babies at the same time, it’s madness.” I felt guilty for answering quite so
vociferously but on paper, you have to admit it’s a crazy concept.
But there’s no denying it - there are plentiful magical
moments too. Hearing them chat with each
other or watching them chase around the house like mad puppies. Or pinching each other’s snacks or laughing
at each other. Seeing them splashing in
the bath alongside each other or climbing on my lap for a cuddle or pointing and
waving at Evie. Taking tins of baked
beans out of the cupboard and rolling them around the kitchen floor. Doing a crawl-y runner down the garden every
time the front door opens. I could go
on. I will go on – but in the privacy of
my own head just to remind myself that these little chaps are a precious gift
and we’re so very lucky to have them in our lives.
... Even when they try and chew the loo brush.